Women are often expected to be submissive when it comes to sex. To lay below the man and allow him to pump his cock in and out of her, while she just takes it. However, I believe that now is the time for female domination, because I know that there are more women than we think out there who want to dominate their men in bed and several men (even if most of them don’t speak out) who want to be dominated. If you want to be the one in charge of fucking, then I suggest that you ask him, because I can assure you that he’ll most likely succumb. On the other hand, if you have a man who feels that he’s superior and stronger and tries to reflect this in bed, just tell him straight: ‘it’s time for change’ (show him some Femdom porn and we promise he’ll change his mind).
Femdom is the act of female domination in bed. It includes a dominant woman who can be called a dominatrix, madame or mistress, who usually (but not necessarily) dresses up in a sexy attire and stilettoes and make their men worship them. The act of Femdom is intertwined with BDSM, as it generally includes similar activities such as; bondage, humiliation, forced feminization, refusal of orgasm, teasing and spanking. So, if you spot your man engaging in some naughty actions while his worshiping your body; for example if he’s getting too much of an erection when he’s definitely not supposed to in his submissive state, then be prepared to carry out some forms of punishment as the BDSM master. And while there’s several different ways of punishing your submissive one, here are my favorite:
- The Cock Cage: This is for couples who want to go all out with their Femdom. It is not for the timid, so we suggest that you tell your partner to leave his intimidation at the bedroom door. This is a tube-like tool that wraps the cock at a downward angle and prevents it from reaching its’ full erectile potential. Lock his cock in, and he’ll be begging to be unlocked.
- Dress him up in a feminine attire. Do the shopping for him. This will build up the suspense, as your partner waits to see what you’ve chosen for him. It will also get you juicy, as you imagine him wearing those pink sexy stockings and lacy underpants. Tell him that that he hasn’t looked more fuckable than he does at that very moment.
- Spanking. This is a way to let him know that he’s been a bad boy. You may prefer to use your hand or to purchase a furry paddle. My favorite is the whip, which combines the right amount of pain with pleasure. It can also be used to tickle his sensitive areas, such as the spot between the balls and the butthole or his inner thighs. Watch him moan as the whip hits his ass.
- Bondage and teasing: Tie your partner up by binding his wrists and ankles together with thick rope or leather straps. Or you can handcuff his wrists to the bedpost while you place a gag in his mouth. Keep him there for as long as you desire. Whisper dirty words into his ear, lock his cock into a cock cage, pleasure yourself in front of him with a massive dildo (one that’s bigger than his cock). And watch him go mad with pleasure, as he’s unable to touch you.
- Foot fetish: This is when you tell your partner to adore your feet and is a way to get yourself worshipped from head to ‘toe’. They may be kissing those sexy stilettoes or you may prefer to take your shoes off and have him kiss and lick your toes. However, he’s not allowed to lift his head above your ankles and if he shows too much eagerness and tries to grab for more, then better for you as you have found your first rational reason for punishing him. Keep him down there with your hand or a cane and step on his back. (Make sure that he’s comfortable with the strength you apply when stepping on him, you don’t want to hurt or injure him or have his libido disappear.)
And why do men love it so much? Well, there are two main reasons. Firstly, it makes them feel desired, as the dominant woman is not only letting him have sex with her (as is generally the case in the ‘conventional’ type of sexual activity) but she is demanding sex from him, she is expressing her strong desire to get pleasured by him. The second reason is that they are relieved from the intense masculinity that is expected of them in society and the responsibility that comes with it. A ‘conventional’ man is expected to be the decision-maker, the leader, and the one that is supposed to be sexually in-charge. With the extraction of responsibility, they are finally able to find a different kind of joy in sex which is much more unpredictable and we all know that with suspense comes enhanced pleasure.
Besides the list of great ideas, I’ve given you here, there’s so much more that you can do when it comes to female domination. You can adapt any of these methods to your own liking. For instance, you may want to engage in role-play on another level, dress him as a patient while you act as the doctor, or treat him like a robber while you are the cop. The most important thing is to be open with him and ask him directly about how much he is comfortable with, because the idea is to add passion to your sex life. You don’t want to scare him away.
After giving it a single go we promise that he’ll be asking for more. What man doesn’t like being guided in bed, watching his partner writhe with several orgasms, none of them his own doing?